Nicole | Personal | Brisbane | 18th May 2014
Tonight I am launching a new section on my blog called “Sunday Share.” I wanted to start writing a little more on the blog about things that I am passionate about, things that I notice through my photography and topics that have really helped me to learn and grow throughout my life, but especially during the hard times that I have experienced over the past couple of years.
As a photographer, especially a boudoir photographer, I constantly am talking with people telling me everything that they hate or loathe about their bodies. As a photographer it is my job to bring out the qualities that people love about themselves but sometimes what I think that is and what the reality of it is can be rather different. While I was doing a little bit of research on this topic, I came across this video from BuzzFeed about Self-Perception.
Isn’t it interesting that what people think about themselves or hate about their bodies are the things that complete strangers actually love or notice first about the stranger. Isn’t it funny how disconnected we are generally with our self that we can’t even see the unique beauty that each of us hold. I know this is true for myself. I used to have a whole lot of self hate towards my body. I have always been a little bit overweight and some times more then others. I’ve always tried to be the happy bubbly person on the outside, but on the inside sub consciously I have always had a little voice telling me that I am not loveable, that I am never going to meet a guy who will love my body. It doesn’t matter what kind of a person I was, my body repelled boys. It has only been in recent years as I have gotten older that I have realised that it’s not about that at all. I am loveable. Other people love me. I just need to love myself. And since I have been more aware and practicing daily self love and acceptance, it is amazing how the weight has dropped off and now my focus is on being happy and healthy. And my whole perspective about my body has changed. I have also realised that not everyone around me is going to accept me for who I am but I really don’t care any more. I’ve got too many other things to worry about other than the dress size of my clothes. And it’s this attitude that is helping me be the person I know I am meant to be and the best boudoir photographer I can be – I certainly have to practice what I preach.
So to conclude, I will leave you with a little quote:
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” – Thich Nhat Hanh